It’s a jungle out there: buying your first woven wrap

When parents (usually moms) decide to take the plunge into the world of woven wraps, they are often overwhelmed by the product offering. Wraps not only come in different sizes, they come in different fabrics and each brand has it’s own texture and feel. Each brand has its lovers and its detractors and it’s no wonder that newbies are affected by a bad case of paralysis by analysis.

The Hopp Timbuktu has thicker stripes on each rails to easily follow the top and bottom rails as you wrap.

The Hopp Timbuktu (100% cotton) has thicker stripes on each rails to easily follow the top and bottom rails as you wrap. You can see the green stripe at the top of the chest pass.

A "grad" effect, where the colour is deeper on one rail and fades as it crosses the width of the wrap also helps to keep track of your rails.

A “grad” effect, where the colour is deeper on one rail and fades as it crosses the width of the wrap also helps keep track of your rails. (100% linen)

It would be next to impossible to give a write-up of each brand with a comparative analysis of how it stacks-up next to the others as a beginner wrap. First, I have not tried them all. Second, I don’t know everything. Third, I don’t know what you like. Instead of telling you which wrap you should buy, I will tell you what you should consider when buying your first woven.

My favorite woven wrap: size 6 Black Hemp Pfau from Dydimos

My favorite woven wrap: size 6 Black Hemp Pfau from Dydimos (hemp/cotton blend)

I live in Canada and the main woven wrap online retailers are Birdie’s Room (for everything Dydimos), Tadpole & Butterflies and Precious Earth (for the rest). There are also countless Facebook pages and online fora dedicated to buying, selling and trading woven wraps (also know as FSOT — For Sale or Trade). The Elder Statesman of babywearing forum is The Babywearer (TBW). On Facebook, everything FSOT is defined in comparison to the Babywearing Swap, also know as “the big swap”. There are therefore “smaller swaps”, “local swaps”, and so on. The big swap is a fast moving and sometimes drama-fulled online jungle. I was almost burned in a trade and quickly left. I prefer dealing locally, or at least in the smaller, slower, Canadian swap page or on TBW.

For the purpose of this post, I will focus on wraps that are easily found online new or used. Even beginners can enjoy a hard-to-find limited edition wrap but until you get your sea-legs online, you may prefer buying a wrap to stalking one for months.

You may also shop over the border with US retailers or through European retailers. Just be aware that you may have to pay customs upon delivery, expressed as a percentage of your total purchase. It is an unwelcome — if random — surprise and should be budgeted accordingly.

Monster peeking out of the wrap.

Monster peeking out of the wrap.

The first consideration in choosing your first wrap is price. How much are you willing to pay? I usually categorize wraps in three price tiers. Lower tier wraps cost less than $100. Middle tier wraps cost between $125 and $175 according to length. Higher tier wraps are at least $150. Some wraps increase in value on the used market whereas other brands retain their retail value or decrease in value.

Wraps are made of cotton, linen, hemp, silk, wool or any mix thereof. A few companies also make bamboo fiber blends. The most affordable wraps are 100% cotton, followed by cotton/linen blends. Hemp/cotton blends are more rare and difficult to find. Most Hemp blends are more expensive used than new. Bamboo is usually quite slippery and I don’t recommend it for novice wrappers.Wool and silk blends are usually more expensive and require special care.

My first wrap job, with a borrowed Girasol Earthy Rainbow. Keeping it real.

My first wrap job, with a borrowed Girasol Earthy Rainbow (100% cotton). Keeping it real.

Any wrap, regardless of the brand and fabric, need a “breaking-in” period during which the fiber stretches and softens, not unlike a pair of jeans. Different wraps require more or less breaking-in and an unbroken “stiff” wrap will be more difficult to use than a soft and floppy one. The only sure-fire way to break-in a wrap is to use it but it can be difficult to learn wrapping with a stiff wrap. A little bit of online research for user feedback will go a long way in giving you a point of reference as far as thickness and stiffness go since few wrap makers will advertise their products as “stiff and impossible to use.”

This is a 100% linen wrap. Unbroken, it wraps like a 2X4. Even broken-in, you can use it as a weapon when braided. But it wraps like nothing else. I love my linen wrap.

This is a 100% linen wrap. Unbroken, it wraps like a 2X4. Even broken-in, you can use it as a weapon when braided. But it wraps like nothing else. I love my linen wrap.

As a new wrapper, you would be well advised to buy a 100% cotton or cotton/linen wrap in the second price tier ($125-$175). Less expensive wraps are often thinner or very difficult to break-in. For someone who is still learning, a broken-in wrap will be much easier to handle. You should consider buying a second-hand wrap from someone who has done the breaking-in for you. Heavy babies (20+lbs) break-in wraps in no time but smaller babies don’t test it quite as much. It’s good to keep in mind that using your wrap will break it in but you may not enjoy using your wrap until it is broken-in. Don’t give-up and wrap every day.

Breaking-in that beast of a Garnet Pfau...

Breaking-in that beast of a Garnet Pfau… (linen/cotton blend)

The less I like a wrap, the more I use it, just in case I'm missing something. I still sold Garnet Pfau: after using it for 2 months, I still found it too thick. Personal taste.

The less I like a wrap, the more I use it, just in case I’m missing something. I still sold Garnet Pfau: after using it for 2 months, I still found it too thick. Personal taste.

Another consideration as a new wrapper is fabric care. At the beginning, you will step on your wrap and it will drag on the floor. Cotton, linen and hemp wraps are easy to care for and can usually be thrown carelessly in the washer and dryer. If you are planning to build a wrap collection, all you will need is a special shelf to look at your wraps and snap weekly pictures. But if like me you are buying a wrap to carry your baby daily, keep in mind that babies will drool, puke (milk or actual food), bite, poop and pee (leaky diaper anyone?) on woven wraps and that the helliest hour of the day (i.e. when you need babywering the most) is supper time. My wraps have seen every bodily fluid that can reasonably come out of a baby, plus curry, spaghetti sauce and olive oil.

Woven wrap being used as a harness on a chair. Don't try this with a cashmere wrap!

Woven wrap being used as a harness on a chair. Don’t try this with a cashmere wrap! (this is a hemp/cotton blend called Petrol Hemp Indio by Didymos).

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Once you narrowed it down to a style and colour that you enjoy, you need to pick a size. This is relatively easy as long as you know your shirt size. I wrote an entire post on sizing and you can read it here. Above almost everything, you must choose a wrap that you find pretty in a colour that suits you well. You are more likely to stick with wrapping if you enjoy the aesthetics of your wrap. My first wrap was an Ellevill Paisley Ink . I traded it for an Oscha linen grad better suited for tandem wrapping but I still love the look of Paisley, even thought the pattern made it very challenging as a beginner.

My first wrap! Where is it now? I traded it to Jessi who traded it to....

My first wrap! (Bamboo/linen blend). Where is it now? I traded it to Jessi who traded it to…

The brands I usually recommend as good workhorse wraps are: Hoppediz, Girasol, BBSlen and Storchenwiege Leo. The Storchenweige wraps with stripes are known to be difficult to impossible to break-in but the Leo are more supple.

In the end, nothing beats trying different wraps to know for sure what you like and dislike. I don’t like thick wraps but I do like textured wraps. Find out if you can find a local babywearing group to tap into. Look it up on Facebook: It’s babywearing Heaven in there! But most of all, don’t wait forever. Babies grow-up too fast.

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45 thoughts on “It’s a jungle out there: buying your first woven wrap

  1. Thanks for this post. I have a friend who is looking to start babywearing and I can’t wait to share this with her.

    Love all the photos and new ideas I’m getting. Like using a wrap as an impromptu baby gate or high chair! And you’re so right…babies grow fast. Wrap them now!!

    P.S. You’ve got me loving the BHP and I’ve never really had any love for those chickens. Off to the swap to see if there’s any to trade!

    • Ha! Ha! About BHP: I never understood the chickens until I got BHP in a temp trade. Then I traded my Oscha linen grad for this one! Now I need to find another linen… Sigh…. Thanks for the visit!

  2. I soo needed this, i want to order my first wrap and I’ve been stalking a Girasol Symphou Fusion de Oro DW ever since trying a Gira at a local babywearing meeting. Before that I never even gave them a thought, I had always thought the patterns on Nati’s were so pretty. But the Gira felt so nice! I’ve just been a little nervous to break down and actually order it. I’m going to just go for it :)

  3. Hi, I’ve moved on from my first wove and have now had the pleasure of several linen blends plus hemp, tussah silk and a silk/ramie blend too! My absolute criteria for a wrap is it must be toddler worthy! Cn you please tell me about the linen/bamboo you’ve wrapped with..it appeals to me as a cooler blend for summer? And I imagine it would be buttery soft…but is the linen enough to counteract the bamboo in terms of a carrying a heavyweight? Thanks for your opinion!

    • The linen definitely adds support to the bamboo. I only used it for my babies when they were about 20lbs, and with good wrapping abilities, it was fine. Some people have said it was only a squish wrap — and it is an amazing squish wrap, I am getting one for my next squish — but I loved it for my 1 year-olds. Light and breathable.

      Is it a heavyweight wrap like a Nati linen? No. It’s a thin wrap. Some people need some thickness for their wraps to be considered “toddler worthy” and this is not a thick wrap. But to answer your question, yes, the linen makes a big difference.

  4. Wonderful. Just what I needed to read. I was gifted a beautiful Vatanai wrap for my third little girl. And now I want another. Oh decisions, decision.

  5. Quick question about washing and drying that I haven’t found a satisfactory answer to elsewhere: my new 100%cotton wraps (an Ellevill Jade and a Storch Leo) say not to tumble dry. Are they serious? I thought the easy care of cotton was one of its appeals. Thank you!

    • Yikes! My advice is usually to follow the manufacturer’s washing label. I would feel horrible if someone ruined a wrap on my account.

      I have only ever owned Girasol 100% cotton wraps. I always tumble dry on low. Storch Leos have a reputation as workhorse wraps, I’d be very surprised if they didn’t hold-up to a drying. But I would try it on low. Cotton can shrink in the dryer.

    • I asked my friend who is a Leo lover and she says that she dries her Storch Leos like clothes. She says it’s bomb-proof. I have a few friends with Ellevill Jades and I’ll post once they reply.

  6. Thank you for this post, as I am also a mom living in the Ottawa area with 5 boys with the last 2 being preemie twins. While I am experienced with ring slings, soft structured carriers, and mei-tais, having 6 month old twins, a two year old, as well as 4 and 7 year old, I believe now is the time to get into woven wraps but I have no personal experience with them nor do I know anyone who does. I have figured out for my dress size 16, it is best to get a size 7 wrap but I am still struggling about what type of fabric (100% cotton, cotton/hemp blend, cotton/linen) and then there is the differing weights of the fabric for a supportive wrap for babies as well as toddlers. I also like some of the designs from Didymos and the vibrant colours of Ellevill. Any insight or direction would be appreciated.

    • Hi Meredith! Are you on Facebook? If you are, you should join the Ottawa Babywearing Group. There is a ton of people eager to help other moms figure out which wrap to get but also weekly meet-ups where you can get help learning how to wrap and try different ones (everybody brings their wraps and we get a decent selection). We also have a sling library where you can borrow different sizes and blends before buying. Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Ottawababywearing/

      For starting out,I always recommend a cotton wrap. Linen and hemp blends can be difficult to break-in and it will definitely make your learning curve steeper. Who needs that?

      Are you looking for a wrap to tandem wrap your twins? In that case, you definitely need a 7. Some women who are large-chested may even need a 8 to tandem wrap. That said, a 8 is not very versatile as it is too much fabric for wrapping one child.

      As far as fabric weights go, the thicker the fabric, the harder it is to break-in. So a Natibaby linen blend for instance will be harder to break-in than a thin Didymos linen blend. Ellevill wraps can also be difficult to break-in but they are wonderfully supportive and very classy. They are also difficult to resell for some reason so be aware that you may have to resell it for less than you paid for. If you can buy it second and, the breaking-in may have been done for you.

      In terms of the wrap being supportive, any wrap can be supportive if you wrap carefully. For a beginner with babies and a toddler, you want to find a happy medium between being thick enough to offer some “cush” when you wear your toddler and thin enough to break-in easily and not swallow your babies. Something in the 210-240gr/m2 should be good for you.

      Which Didymos and Ellevill are you eying in particular? Didymos wraps vary wildly so it’s hard to recommend one in particular. I had Mystic Fish for a long time and it was amazing for newborn to preschoolers. A linen Indio would also be perfect for newborn to preschooler if it wasn’t too thick.

      I hope this helps! Just shoot me more questions if it doesn’t!

      In the end, you should buy a wrap that you like.

      • Thanks Veronique, as through your blog, I discovered the facebook page for the Ottawa Babywearing Group and joined the group. It is full of useful insights as you suggested. Plus through the leaders of group meetups, I have found a mom of twins willing to guide me in person about woven wraps.

        As for the size of the wrap, I am unsure whether to tandem wrap or wrap separately. From further research it would seem a number of moms of twins prefer to wrap their babes separately due to ease of removal of one or use a combination of MT and SSC. What did you find the most useful for your twins – one long wrap, two separate shorter ones or some other combination? As well what would you recommend to a newbie wrapper? As well in my case, my babes spent almost 5 months in the hospital and I worked hard to get them to be fully nursing but that means nursing on demand which is often on their own different but frequent rhythm.

        As for the Didymos wraps I like from Birdies Room they are the 100% cotton or jacquard geckos, ellipsen,and waves. From Ellevill they the cotton/bamboo paisley and cotton gaia and zara – mainly for their vibrant colours and tapered ends. While your blog was very helpful in demystifying the breaking in process of wraps, it still would be helpful to work with an easier wrap break in for tying tight knots. While I own a Boba wrap, I dislike it for its overall stretchiness and prefer something with a more secure feeling like my woven ring sling. But I also dislike the canvas feeling of my freehand MT when it comes to tying tight knots although possibly I just need to use it a lot more to break it in more.

        Thanks again for all your help…

      • Sorry I realize I was not specific in my babywearing needs. Basically I need to carry my twins around the house and outside (daily living with many kids) both together and separately for short and longer periods. Currently for the single babe carry I go to my woven ring sling and for both babes and longer duration I use a MT/SSC combo. Unfortunately currently my little guys are only happy to sleep in the carriers hence I am looking into the woven wraps to see if they may like them better.

      • Hi Meredith! I’m sorry if I didn’t reply earlier. It’s been a bit crazy around here and WordPress keeps eating my replies!

        All the cotton options you mentioned in your previous message are good options. I would steer clear of Ellevill’s cotton/bamboo unless you are buying one wrap per baby. Tey are gorgeous wraps, very soft and breathable but they are thin and bamboo is slippery. Not the best combination for learning or to tandem.

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  8. Great article! There are so many great products available. I’m finding/falling for a wrap of every brand I come across, yikes! This is my first woven wrap and I’m looking for a breathable/supportive/new wrap. I’ve narrowed it down to a whimsical selection but need help understand these wraps a bit better. Your recommendation would be greatly appreciated (or other suggestions too).

    kokadi Wrap arround the world – 50% BW 50 hanf
    Natibaby Bubbles Turquoise (Linen Blend)
    DIDYMOS Easter 2014
    Organic “Miel & Malice” wrap (Well not so whimsical but love the

    With thanks
    Noob

    • I’ve made a woman of myself and went for it. I found a Natibaby Treasure Map cotton/hemp blend (212gr/m2). From what I’ve read, this could be a good match. But the best part is that is a unique design for my little guy. Sold!

      • Awesome! My apologies for taking so long to reply! We had a crazy weekend. The treasure map is so cute and not too thick. Let me know how you like it and don’t give -up until it’s broken-in!

  9. Hi! I just got a artipoppe wrap.. it’s 50% Egyptian cotton, 25% silk, 25% bamboo. I’ve read that silk wraps aren’t ideal for heavier babies. Granted, my LO is only 6 weeks :) So we have a while… but with having bamboo and cotton woven in… do you think it will last a long time for her? Was what I read accurate about it not being ideal for heavier babies? I also want to use rings with it if possible.. would that work with this type of wrap?

    • Hi! I’m not familiar with this blend but i don’t agree that silk is not ideal for beavier babies. I think that in terms of comfort with a heavier baby, the thickness of the wrap is more relevant than the blend. So i have a very think silk blend (cotton silk) that i no longer use but i also have a medium thick silk blend (Oscha Starry night) that i used until my twins were 2.5 and with my newborn and still use now (my baby is 6 months old). I wouldn’t count on bamboo to make a wrap sturdier: bamboo adds softness but not extra support in my opinion. I’m sure this will be a lovely wrap! As for using it with rings, it’s hard to know without knkwing the wrap. I never use rings but i think that if the wrap is solid enough to be converted to a ring sling, it should be ok to use with rings. I hope this helps!!

  10. Reviving your post to ask a question about your ‘first wrap’, the Ellevill Paisley bamboo/linen blend: would you recommend buying that used or new for a beginner wrapper with a 5-month old (~18lbs)? Thanks in advance for any insight you have to offer!

    • Hi! Good question…. Yes and no. So first, i must say that if you love the wrap and have your heart set on it, you will work it out. That said… I swore a lot learning to wrap with this one. A lot! In front of my babies.

      It’s a very thin but supportive wrap and it’s gorgeous. But the bamboo makes it slippery. If you only ever planned to do front or side carries, i would tell you “go ahead” but if you are hoping to learn back carries with a squirmy baby and a slippery wrap, then you are going to find it challenging. Not impossible, but challenging. Since it’s a wrap on the expensive side of things it may not be the best choice to find the wrap love. Also, i find that having a pattern you can follow as you wrap (such as stripes or anything symetric,) is really helpful. Some Natibaby and didymos wraps have one solid coloured rail on an otherwise patterned wrap and even that helps a lot. The Ellevill paisley doesn’t. It just makes things a bit harder.

      But as i said before, those issues are not unsurmountable if you really like the wrap. Hope this helps!

  11. Hi Veronique, I love and am so grateful to have found your blog! Thank you so much for making time to share all this information. I’m a Canadian mama (Vancouver) who moves around a lot due to my husband’s job, so don’t have access to real live babywearing groups and (so far) have found only two attachment-oriented friends in our current country of residence. Blogs like yours are life- and sanity-savers.

    I have a toddler who will be 2.5 when our twins arrive in June. I wore him constantly in a stretchy wrap until he was about 10 months old, then he became so interested in crawling that he refused to stay wrapped up for long. We still carry him when we travel, but he is primarily a walker/runner now and hardly ever sits still.

    I’m looking to buy my first woven wrap to tandem carry the babies and stay mobile to keep up with my son. I’m waffling between sizes – had been advised to go with a 6, but I’m almost wondering if a 5 would be sufficient:

    -I’m quite petite: 5’2″ and 105 lbs (pre-pregnancy haha). Although I will gain about 40-50 lbs with this pregnancy, I expect to be back down soon due to breastfeeding, running after toddler, etc.

    -My husband will likely be using our Boba soft structured carrier to take one twin when we travel, go for weekend walks together, etc. when they get a bit older. So my wrap will likely be used by me exclusively for both babies from 1-6 months, then will I start setting them down a bit more on the ground to explore. When they get huge (toddler-sized) I don’t think I’d have the strength to carry them both at the same time, anyway.

    Based on this, what do you think re: sizing?

    I was about to purchase an Ellevill Paisley Quatro Majesty (tonight, actually!) but your insight on the slipperiness of bamboo has made me pause. I LOVE the pattern on the fabric but may want to make things easier on myself by getting 100% cotton. I had considered the 50% bamboo due to breathability – it goes up to 40 degrees Celsius in the summer where I live, and want to keep my two babies as cool as possible when they’re wrapped up in all that fabric. Any further comments on this would be appreciated.

    • Hi! I’m so glad you found the blog useful! Congratulations on the twins! This is such an amazing adventure. Not always easy but worth it. Ok, so with regard to size: I think that a 5 *might* be enough. A 6 will be enough for sure and a 5 might be enough but I’m not 100% sure. Are you on any traveling wrap group of wrap swap on Facebook? I think that trying a 5 (even before the babies are born) will give you a better idea. For tandem wrapping, my usual recommendation is to go one size up from your base size. So my base is 6 and I used a 7 to tandem. I have “tandemed” in a 6 but I was barely breathing. That’s what I mean by “might be”: it might be ok but not all that comfortable or versatile as the babies get bigger. If you were able to borrow a 4 and a 5, you would be able to judge whether your base is a 4 or a 5. If you have good feedback on Facebook or TBW, just send me the link, I’d be happy to lend you a size 5 to try.

      Now, as far as fabric… The “heat” problem while wrapping babies in summer is 95% related to having human beings strapped against you body and 5% the fabric. And the fabric factor is not so much the blend as the thickness and the weave. My recommendation would be a nice linen Indio by Didymos, on the thinner side (less than 250 gr/sq.m ): crystal linen Indio (purple) or Silver Linen Indio (blue grey) or Blaze (red and yellow) or red marble. Linen indios can be hard to find and a cotton Indio would be a great choice too. A hemp Indio on the thinner side would also be great (even though hemp is reputed as bad for hot weather, like I said, it won’t make a big difference given that you’ll have two human beings on you). What I really like about Indios is that the weave is really breathable. On the down-side, it’s prone to pulls. It’s not as much of a workhorse wrap as a Girasol would be. But I think it would be perfect for tandem wearing. Bamboo is very supportive for the thickness and yes, slippery. But if you love your wrap, you’ll make it work. I think that getting a thinner wrap is more important for heat than the blend.

      • Veronique, thank you so much for your speedy, detailed and thoughtful reply. I’ll take a look at the Didymos wraps you recommended and have also emailed Ellevill with a couple of questions. Natibaby has some beautiful cotton/linen blends on sale, but they look thick – I’m finding it hard to find more information on exact weight when searching through all of these wrap websites…but that’s another matter. I might quickly email them, too.

        One of my two (!) attachment-minded friends coincidentally is Norwegian and has a size 6 Ellevill that I can try out. I’m not in any FB wrap groups and would never ask you to lend me anything, though it was very sweet of you to offer. I’ll take a look at my friend’s size 6 this weekend then make a decision.

        Thank you again, I’m very grateful. You and your family are an inspiration!

  12. Hi Veronique,

    Further to my question/your reply above, thought you might like to know that I just completed my order for Ellevill’s Special Edition 50% linen 50% organic cotton Mai Green. I apparently got the last size 6 so feel very lucky. I can pay domestic shipping fees and don’t get slapped with duty at all, so am doubly lucky that it comes out more cost-effective than lots of other wraps.

    I may try breaking it in by wrapping my toddler…but am a bit unsure of how to safely carry him now that I’m 25 weeks pregnant. Will do a bit of research – your suggestions are most welcome! I feel heavy and achy enough by the end of the day, don’t know if I want to add his 22lbs to that!!

    Take care and thanks again for this awesome blog!

    • Hi! Nice to hear from you! So 25 weeks pregnant with twins right? For a singleton pregnancy, the rule of thumb is that you can keep doing the activities that you are already conditioned to. Babywearing, as long as it grows with you, is ok. My concern with you would be two-fold. First, you haven’t been wearing your toddler throughout the last 25 weeks so it’s going to stress your body. The second concern of course is that a twin pregnancy is never as straightforward as a singleton pregnancy. By 28 weeks (thereabouts), you’ll be as big as you were with your singleton and you need to keep it up for another 2 months (preferably). So anything that puts additional stress on your body should be avoided. As you say yourself, you are achy and heavy at the end of the day… I’m sorry to say but this is going to get harder before it gets better. My best advice would be to conserve your energy and find other ways to break-in your wrap. Like making a wrap swing for your toddler. My kids love wrap swings!

      • Funny to hear you say that it’s “going to get harder before it gets better,” because I was thinking that exact same thing yesterday afternoon. I have been putting off the mammoth task of pulling old baby clothes out of the storage room for sorting, but smiled to myself yesterday when I realised that I’m not going to feel more enthusiastic or energetic about it in the weeks to come…

        You’re right that I probably shouldn’t strap a toddler to my body out of the blue at this point in my pregnancy. I did a quick search on creating wrap swings/hammocks and think that I could rig something suitable and fun up pretty easily. Thank you for the concern and the suggestion. Now just can’t wait for the wrap to arrive!

        Take care and thanks again! Will keep reading!

  13. Thank you so much for all the information in your blog and your thoughtful replies to questions. I have gotten more out of reading this than anything else I have found on the internet – even the Facebook groups I’m in have not been particularly helpful, or the online businesses I have contacted.
    As appears to be the case for so many newbie wrappers, I have found the task of choosing the right wrap to be very overwhelming with way to many options.
    As a couple of the above posters, I’m pregnant with twins (22 weeks). I wore my toddler a lot when she was younger but only ever ventured into ring slings and ssc. I would really like to tandem wear my twins and a woven seems to be a good option.
    Ok, so I keep flip flopping about which wrap to get. Every time I think I’m settled on one, I read something that makes me change my mind. It’s driving me crazy! Your responses and explanations regarding Ellevill Paisley linen/bamboo were hepful as that was one I was strongly considering. I also like your explanation about the weight of the fabric. The challenge is that it’s not always easy to find the weight on a particular wrap. Here are some options I’ve been contemplating: Ellevill Zara or Paisley in linen/cotton (would these be soft enough for newborns?), Didymos Orient Ayana 100% cotton (would this be supportive enough in the long run? Too thick?), Didymos Prunella linen/cotten (would this be soft enough for newborns?), Girasol Diamond Weave Light Rainbow (again, not sure this would be supportive enough in the long run). There are others, but I’ll stop here. I feel like I’m all over the place. I don’t expect you to have experience with each of these, but I just hope you can give me some guidance.
    Thanks for any advice you can share!

    • Hi! I’m so glad the blog posts were helpful! Congratulations on the twins! Ok, so as you said I am not experienced with all the wraps you mentioned. I have used a Zara in the past and it is a *beast* to break in. Wonderful wrap once broken-in but whoa, not for the faint of heart. I would not get that for my newborn, and certainly not brand new. If you come across a well used one, it would be very nice as a tandem wrap for bigger babies. I never tried the cotton paisley, I don’t know how it compares to the bamboo one. If it’s anything like the bamboo linen one, yes it will be perfect for a newborn. One thing to know about the Ellevill wraps is that they have very long tapers. When tandem wrapping, it can make a big difference because you might be tying in the taper, which makes the wrap job less supportive (in my opinion). That’s why I usually recommend Girasol or Dydimos for tandem wrapping. I never tried the two Didymos you mention but it’s hard to go wrong with a Didy, in my opinion. Even their linen blends break-in easily although I would definitely pick a thin one. Something well under 250 gsm. If you can’t find information about the gsm (grams per square metre) on the manufacturer’s website, try googling “woven wrap database”. Everything is not there but a lot is.

      I think that trying to reconcile “perfect for newborn and to learn wrapping” with “perfect for toddler tandem babywearing” is going to be hard. Because newborn wraps that are easy to learn with are thin, soft and floppy. Toddler-proof beasts are thick and grippy. Personally, I think that we make way too much out of “toddler-worthiness”. Any wrap that is well used can be toddler worthy. Also, tandem babywearing toddlers is never going to be very comfortable, let’s be honest. So I have no qualms recommending a Girasol wrap. It will be great for tandem wearing, great for newborns and great to earn with. Or a Disymos Indio. We have a twin mama in our Facebook Group (Ottawa Babywearing Group on Facebook) who uses a Didymos Indio Aurora with her 8 month old twins and it looks great.

      I hope this was helpful and not more confusing. :-)

      Let me know what you pick!!

      • Hi again Veronica, Thank you so much for your thoughtful and helpful response! I didn’t realize that about the Zaras or that the long tapers might make tandem wrapping less supportive. Very good to know! I am beginning to realize that reconciling all my wrapping wants in one wrap may be unrealistic. Would it be realistic to aim for something that will work well for the first year?

        I did find the gsm on some of the Didys: The linen/cotton Prunella is 210 gsm and the cotton Orient Ayana is 240 gsm. I also quite like the cotton Phau Aqua, which is 218 gsm. Based on what your recommendation, the Orient is probably on the thicker side and I’d be better off with one of the others. Funny you mention the Indio Aurora. It’s one I really like, but I keep being disuaded by the comments that the Indios pull easily. I don’t want a wrap that I have to treat with kid gloves or that will look ragged in no time. So I guess the question is then, would the 210 gsm linen/cotton be thin enough to break in easily? or would the Phau or maybe the Aurora be better options for Didys? Or would I be better off with the Girasol? The Giro is a lot cheapter, but I don’t mind spending the money if it means I get a better wrapping experience. It would be a lot easier if I could see and feel them in person, but that’s just not an option where I live (small town Nova Scotia).

        I wanted to also thank you for your comments above about practice wrapping with a toddler while pregnant with twins. This was one of my plans and your comments to the previous poster made me realize it might not be the best idea.

      • The pfau are all great wraps. Pick one that you like from a colour and thickness point of view and you won’t be disappointed. Girasol is a good all-around wrap and if you like one, go for it. They are the most versatile for the price. I never hesitate to recommend a Girasol. Just the colours in mine make me happy. I have a size 4 snow rainbow and an earthy rainbow ring sling and they serve me from day one to preschool. My first tandem wrap was a Girasol Ardent purple. Girasol require minimal breaking-in too. At this point, I think that you’ve done enough research to narrow it down to a few options. Just pick one that makes you happy and that you find beautiful. If you go with a Didy linen blend, pick on the thinner side and you’ll be fine.

      • Oh boy! After reading your response I went back and read more about Indios. That just added to the confusion of options. I quite like the 1975 Mystic Petrol (190 gsm, 70% cotton/30% hemp), the Dark blue and white (210 gsm cotton), and the Shades of Blue (230 gsm 55% cotton/25% hemp/20% linen). I think I need to buy something before my head exploded!
        Sorry to keep throwing more options at you :)

      • With regard to the Indios, I know that they have a reputation for pulls but honestly, it’s never been a problem for me. Meaning that yes, some of my more delicate (silk, cashmere) Indios have pulls that need to be minded but they do not affect the safety of he wrap. I also have a linen Indio (Silver) that has no pulls whatsoever and is one of my most used and abused wrap. I think that a cotton, linen or hemp Indio will serve you well. You will have to be careful not to wash it with Velcro but I wash mine in with the towels no problem. The thicker, denser Indios will be less likely to pull but then you’ll have more work to do to break them in. Of all the Indios you mention in your message, my first choice would probably be Mystic Petrol. The tri-blend is awesome from what I hear but will need some serious breaking-in. Dark blue and white should also serve you well but I never tried it.

  14. Thank you for all your help!! This has been so very helpful. I think I’m going to bite the bullet and get the Mystic Petrol. I can’t wait to see it in real life and start breaking it in. I may not be able to wear my toddler in my condition, but I’m sure she will be a great help in other ways :)

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