It’s a jungle out there: buying your first woven wrap

When parents (usually moms) decide to take the plunge into the world of woven wraps, they are often overwhelmed by the product offering. Wraps not only come in different sizes, they come in different fabrics and each brand has it’s own texture and feel. Each brand has its lovers and its detractors and it’s no wonder that newbies are affected by a bad case of paralysis by analysis.

The Hopp Timbuktu has thicker stripes on each rails to easily follow the top and bottom rails as you wrap.

The Hopp Timbuktu (100% cotton) has thicker stripes on each rails to easily follow the top and bottom rails as you wrap. You can see the green stripe at the top of the chest pass.

A "grad" effect, where the colour is deeper on one rail and fades as it crosses the width of the wrap also helps to keep track of your rails.

A “grad” effect, where the colour is deeper on one rail and fades as it crosses the width of the wrap also helps keep track of your rails. (100% linen)

It would be next to impossible to give a write-up of each brand with a comparative analysis of how it stacks-up next to the others as a beginner wrap. First, I have not tried them all. Second, I don’t know everything. Third, I don’t know what you like. Instead of telling you which wrap you should buy, I will tell you what you should consider when buying your first woven.

My favorite woven wrap: size 6 Black Hemp Pfau from Dydimos

My favorite woven wrap: size 6 Black Hemp Pfau from Dydimos (hemp/cotton blend)

I live in Canada and the main woven wrap online retailers are Birdie’s Room (for everything Dydimos), Tadpole & Butterflies and Precious Earth (for the rest). There are also countless Facebook pages and online fora dedicated to buying, selling and trading woven wraps (also know as FSOT — For Sale or Trade). The Elder Statesman of babywearing forum is The Babywearer (TBW). On Facebook, everything FSOT is defined in comparison to the Babywearing Swap, also know as “the big swap”. There are therefore “smaller swaps”, “local swaps”, and so on. The big swap is a fast moving and sometimes drama-fulled online jungle. I was almost burned in a trade and quickly left. I prefer dealing locally, or at least in the smaller, slower, Canadian swap page or on TBW.

For the purpose of this post, I will focus on wraps that are easily found online new or used. Even beginners can enjoy a hard-to-find limited edition wrap but until you get your sea-legs online, you may prefer buying a wrap to stalking one for months.

You may also shop over the border with US retailers or through European retailers. Just be aware that you may have to pay customs upon delivery, expressed as a percentage of your total purchase. It is an unwelcome — if random — surprise and should be budgeted accordingly.

Monster peeking out of the wrap.

Monster peeking out of the wrap.

The first consideration in choosing your first wrap is price. How much are you willing to pay? I usually categorize wraps in three price tiers. Lower tier wraps cost less than $100. Middle tier wraps cost between $125 and $175 according to length. Higher tier wraps are at least $150. Some wraps increase in value on the used market whereas other brands retain their retail value or decrease in value.

Wraps are made of cotton, linen, hemp, silk, wool or any mix thereof. A few companies also make bamboo fiber blends. The most affordable wraps are 100% cotton, followed by cotton/linen blends. Hemp/cotton blends are more rare and difficult to find. Most Hemp blends are more expensive used than new. Bamboo is usually quite slippery and I don’t recommend it for novice wrappers.Wool and silk blends are usually more expensive and require special care.

My first wrap job, with a borrowed Girasol Earthy Rainbow. Keeping it real.

My first wrap job, with a borrowed Girasol Earthy Rainbow (100% cotton). Keeping it real.

Any wrap, regardless of the brand and fabric, need a “breaking-in” period during which the fiber stretches and softens, not unlike a pair of jeans. Different wraps require more or less breaking-in and an unbroken “stiff” wrap will be more difficult to use than a soft and floppy one. The only sure-fire way to break-in a wrap is to use it but it can be difficult to learn wrapping with a stiff wrap. A little bit of online research for user feedback will go a long way in giving you a point of reference as far as thickness and stiffness go since few wrap makers will advertise their products as “stiff and impossible to use.”

This is a 100% linen wrap. Unbroken, it wraps like a 2X4. Even broken-in, you can use it as a weapon when braided. But it wraps like nothing else. I love my linen wrap.

This is a 100% linen wrap. Unbroken, it wraps like a 2X4. Even broken-in, you can use it as a weapon when braided. But it wraps like nothing else. I love my linen wrap.

As a new wrapper, you would be well advised to buy a 100% cotton or cotton/linen wrap in the second price tier ($125-$175). Less expensive wraps are often thinner or very difficult to break-in. For someone who is still learning, a broken-in wrap will be much easier to handle. You should consider buying a second-hand wrap from someone who has done the breaking-in for you. Heavy babies (20+lbs) break-in wraps in no time but smaller babies don’t test it quite as much. It’s good to keep in mind that using your wrap will break it in but you may not enjoy using your wrap until it is broken-in. Don’t give-up and wrap every day.

Breaking-in that beast of a Garnet Pfau...

Breaking-in that beast of a Garnet Pfau… (linen/cotton blend)

The less I like a wrap, the more I use it, just in case I'm missing something. I still sold Garnet Pfau: after using it for 2 months, I still found it too thick. Personal taste.

The less I like a wrap, the more I use it, just in case I’m missing something. I still sold Garnet Pfau: after using it for 2 months, I still found it too thick. Personal taste.

Another consideration as a new wrapper is fabric care. At the beginning, you will step on your wrap and it will drag on the floor. Cotton, linen and hemp wraps are easy to care for and can usually be thrown carelessly in the washer and dryer. If you are planning to build a wrap collection, all you will need is a special shelf to look at your wraps and snap weekly pictures. But if like me you are buying a wrap to carry your baby daily, keep in mind that babies will drool, puke (milk or actual food), bite, poop and pee (leaky diaper anyone?) on woven wraps and that the helliest hour of the day (i.e. when you need babywering the most) is supper time. My wraps have seen every bodily fluid that can reasonably come out of a baby, plus curry, spaghetti sauce and olive oil.

Woven wrap being used as a harness on a chair. Don't try this with a cashmere wrap!

Woven wrap being used as a harness on a chair. Don’t try this with a cashmere wrap! (this is a hemp/cotton blend called Petrol Hemp Indio by Didymos).

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Once you narrowed it down to a style and colour that you enjoy, you need to pick a size. This is relatively easy as long as you know your shirt size. I wrote an entire post on sizing and you can read it here. Above almost everything, you must choose a wrap that you find pretty in a colour that suits you well. You are more likely to stick with wrapping if you enjoy the aesthetics of your wrap. My first wrap was an Ellevill Paisley Ink . I traded it for an Oscha linen grad better suited for tandem wrapping but I still love the look of Paisley, even thought the pattern made it very challenging as a beginner.

My first wrap! Where is it now? I traded it to Jessi who traded it to....

My first wrap! (Bamboo/linen blend). Where is it now? I traded it to Jessi who traded it to…

The brands I usually recommend as good workhorse wraps are: Hoppediz, Girasol, BBSlen and Storchenwiege Leo. The Storchenweige wraps with stripes are known to be difficult to impossible to break-in but the Leo are more supple.

In the end, nothing beats trying different wraps to know for sure what you like and dislike. I don’t like thick wraps but I do like textured wraps. Find out if you can find a local babywearing group to tap into. Look it up on Facebook: It’s babywearing Heaven in there! But most of all, don’t wait forever. Babies grow-up too fast.

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29 thoughts on “It’s a jungle out there: buying your first woven wrap

  1. Thanks for this post. I have a friend who is looking to start babywearing and I can’t wait to share this with her.

    Love all the photos and new ideas I’m getting. Like using a wrap as an impromptu baby gate or high chair! And you’re so right…babies grow fast. Wrap them now!!

    P.S. You’ve got me loving the BHP and I’ve never really had any love for those chickens. Off to the swap to see if there’s any to trade!

    • Ha! Ha! About BHP: I never understood the chickens until I got BHP in a temp trade. Then I traded my Oscha linen grad for this one! Now I need to find another linen… Sigh…. Thanks for the visit!

  2. I soo needed this, i want to order my first wrap and I’ve been stalking a Girasol Symphou Fusion de Oro DW ever since trying a Gira at a local babywearing meeting. Before that I never even gave them a thought, I had always thought the patterns on Nati’s were so pretty. But the Gira felt so nice! I’ve just been a little nervous to break down and actually order it. I’m going to just go for it :)

  3. Hi, I’ve moved on from my first wove and have now had the pleasure of several linen blends plus hemp, tussah silk and a silk/ramie blend too! My absolute criteria for a wrap is it must be toddler worthy! Cn you please tell me about the linen/bamboo you’ve wrapped with..it appeals to me as a cooler blend for summer? And I imagine it would be buttery soft…but is the linen enough to counteract the bamboo in terms of a carrying a heavyweight? Thanks for your opinion!

    • The linen definitely adds support to the bamboo. I only used it for my babies when they were about 20lbs, and with good wrapping abilities, it was fine. Some people have said it was only a squish wrap — and it is an amazing squish wrap, I am getting one for my next squish — but I loved it for my 1 year-olds. Light and breathable.

      Is it a heavyweight wrap like a Nati linen? No. It’s a thin wrap. Some people need some thickness for their wraps to be considered “toddler worthy” and this is not a thick wrap. But to answer your question, yes, the linen makes a big difference.

  4. Wonderful. Just what I needed to read. I was gifted a beautiful Vatanai wrap for my third little girl. And now I want another. Oh decisions, decision.

  5. Quick question about washing and drying that I haven’t found a satisfactory answer to elsewhere: my new 100%cotton wraps (an Ellevill Jade and a Storch Leo) say not to tumble dry. Are they serious? I thought the easy care of cotton was one of its appeals. Thank you!

    • Yikes! My advice is usually to follow the manufacturer’s washing label. I would feel horrible if someone ruined a wrap on my account.

      I have only ever owned Girasol 100% cotton wraps. I always tumble dry on low. Storch Leos have a reputation as workhorse wraps, I’d be very surprised if they didn’t hold-up to a drying. But I would try it on low. Cotton can shrink in the dryer.

    • I asked my friend who is a Leo lover and she says that she dries her Storch Leos like clothes. She says it’s bomb-proof. I have a few friends with Ellevill Jades and I’ll post once they reply.

  6. Thank you for this post, as I am also a mom living in the Ottawa area with 5 boys with the last 2 being preemie twins. While I am experienced with ring slings, soft structured carriers, and mei-tais, having 6 month old twins, a two year old, as well as 4 and 7 year old, I believe now is the time to get into woven wraps but I have no personal experience with them nor do I know anyone who does. I have figured out for my dress size 16, it is best to get a size 7 wrap but I am still struggling about what type of fabric (100% cotton, cotton/hemp blend, cotton/linen) and then there is the differing weights of the fabric for a supportive wrap for babies as well as toddlers. I also like some of the designs from Didymos and the vibrant colours of Ellevill. Any insight or direction would be appreciated.

    • Hi Meredith! Are you on Facebook? If you are, you should join the Ottawa Babywearing Group. There is a ton of people eager to help other moms figure out which wrap to get but also weekly meet-ups where you can get help learning how to wrap and try different ones (everybody brings their wraps and we get a decent selection). We also have a sling library where you can borrow different sizes and blends before buying. Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Ottawababywearing/

      For starting out,I always recommend a cotton wrap. Linen and hemp blends can be difficult to break-in and it will definitely make your learning curve steeper. Who needs that?

      Are you looking for a wrap to tandem wrap your twins? In that case, you definitely need a 7. Some women who are large-chested may even need a 8 to tandem wrap. That said, a 8 is not very versatile as it is too much fabric for wrapping one child.

      As far as fabric weights go, the thicker the fabric, the harder it is to break-in. So a Natibaby linen blend for instance will be harder to break-in than a thin Didymos linen blend. Ellevill wraps can also be difficult to break-in but they are wonderfully supportive and very classy. They are also difficult to resell for some reason so be aware that you may have to resell it for less than you paid for. If you can buy it second and, the breaking-in may have been done for you.

      In terms of the wrap being supportive, any wrap can be supportive if you wrap carefully. For a beginner with babies and a toddler, you want to find a happy medium between being thick enough to offer some “cush” when you wear your toddler and thin enough to break-in easily and not swallow your babies. Something in the 210-240gr/m2 should be good for you.

      Which Didymos and Ellevill are you eying in particular? Didymos wraps vary wildly so it’s hard to recommend one in particular. I had Mystic Fish for a long time and it was amazing for newborn to preschoolers. A linen Indio would also be perfect for newborn to preschooler if it wasn’t too thick.

      I hope this helps! Just shoot me more questions if it doesn’t!

      In the end, you should buy a wrap that you like.

      • Thanks Veronique, as through your blog, I discovered the facebook page for the Ottawa Babywearing Group and joined the group. It is full of useful insights as you suggested. Plus through the leaders of group meetups, I have found a mom of twins willing to guide me in person about woven wraps.

        As for the size of the wrap, I am unsure whether to tandem wrap or wrap separately. From further research it would seem a number of moms of twins prefer to wrap their babes separately due to ease of removal of one or use a combination of MT and SSC. What did you find the most useful for your twins – one long wrap, two separate shorter ones or some other combination? As well what would you recommend to a newbie wrapper? As well in my case, my babes spent almost 5 months in the hospital and I worked hard to get them to be fully nursing but that means nursing on demand which is often on their own different but frequent rhythm.

        As for the Didymos wraps I like from Birdies Room they are the 100% cotton or jacquard geckos, ellipsen,and waves. From Ellevill they the cotton/bamboo paisley and cotton gaia and zara – mainly for their vibrant colours and tapered ends. While your blog was very helpful in demystifying the breaking in process of wraps, it still would be helpful to work with an easier wrap break in for tying tight knots. While I own a Boba wrap, I dislike it for its overall stretchiness and prefer something with a more secure feeling like my woven ring sling. But I also dislike the canvas feeling of my freehand MT when it comes to tying tight knots although possibly I just need to use it a lot more to break it in more.

        Thanks again for all your help…

      • Sorry I realize I was not specific in my babywearing needs. Basically I need to carry my twins around the house and outside (daily living with many kids) both together and separately for short and longer periods. Currently for the single babe carry I go to my woven ring sling and for both babes and longer duration I use a MT/SSC combo. Unfortunately currently my little guys are only happy to sleep in the carriers hence I am looking into the woven wraps to see if they may like them better.

      • Hi Meredith! I’m sorry if I didn’t reply earlier. It’s been a bit crazy around here and WordPress keeps eating my replies!

        All the cotton options you mentioned in your previous message are good options. I would steer clear of Ellevill’s cotton/bamboo unless you are buying one wrap per baby. Tey are gorgeous wraps, very soft and breathable but they are thin and bamboo is slippery. Not the best combination for learning or to tandem.

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  8. Great article! There are so many great products available. I’m finding/falling for a wrap of every brand I come across, yikes! This is my first woven wrap and I’m looking for a breathable/supportive/new wrap. I’ve narrowed it down to a whimsical selection but need help understand these wraps a bit better. Your recommendation would be greatly appreciated (or other suggestions too).

    kokadi Wrap arround the world – 50% BW 50 hanf
    Natibaby Bubbles Turquoise (Linen Blend)
    DIDYMOS Easter 2014
    Organic “Miel & Malice” wrap (Well not so whimsical but love the

    With thanks
    Noob

    • I’ve made a woman of myself and went for it. I found a Natibaby Treasure Map cotton/hemp blend (212gr/m2). From what I’ve read, this could be a good match. But the best part is that is a unique design for my little guy. Sold!

      • Awesome! My apologies for taking so long to reply! We had a crazy weekend. The treasure map is so cute and not too thick. Let me know how you like it and don’t give -up until it’s broken-in!

  9. Hi! I just got a artipoppe wrap.. it’s 50% Egyptian cotton, 25% silk, 25% bamboo. I’ve read that silk wraps aren’t ideal for heavier babies. Granted, my LO is only 6 weeks :) So we have a while… but with having bamboo and cotton woven in… do you think it will last a long time for her? Was what I read accurate about it not being ideal for heavier babies? I also want to use rings with it if possible.. would that work with this type of wrap?

    • Hi! I’m not familiar with this blend but i don’t agree that silk is not ideal for beavier babies. I think that in terms of comfort with a heavier baby, the thickness of the wrap is more relevant than the blend. So i have a very think silk blend (cotton silk) that i no longer use but i also have a medium thick silk blend (Oscha Starry night) that i used until my twins were 2.5 and with my newborn and still use now (my baby is 6 months old). I wouldn’t count on bamboo to make a wrap sturdier: bamboo adds softness but not extra support in my opinion. I’m sure this will be a lovely wrap! As for using it with rings, it’s hard to know without knkwing the wrap. I never use rings but i think that if the wrap is solid enough to be converted to a ring sling, it should be ok to use with rings. I hope this helps!!

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